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ORGASM NEWS INSIDE THIS ISSUE: Cock Shaming
Are we still having these conversations? The length and girth of a penis only matters when you don’t take the time to learn how best to pleasure yourself and others.
The first quarter of the year just ended! Look at how fast time is moving. There does not seem to be enough time to continue living an unfulfilling life of intimacy. I am literally traveling the country spreading the results of my 12 years of studying the completion of the sexual response cycle and the pleasure that can be had to get there.
I partner with sex based organizations and business who support and align with my mission and purpose. As a sex educator, I pride myself in knowing the latest information from studies in the field of sexuality. I enjoy finding ways to put pleasure in these results. There are so many ways to bring pleasure into dark areas preventing your from pleasure.
I am guilty of overlooking how cock shaming effects penis owners. Not really giving it much thought because I know the pleasure of the penis regardless size and girth. Foremost, you own a beautiful penis! Not only is it your one and only natural part that you can give and receive pleasure from, it is the vehicle for the ejaculation that is required by the body.
You have a choice of whether you want to claim small penis humiliation(SPH) activity for pleasure or shame. This can be a satisfying method of pleasure for folks who truly get pleasure from having their penis of any size shamed and treated with acts causing pain and making you feel less then, because your penis is short. As a kink, this is fine. SPH is a consensual form of kinky play. As a way of life, this may not be the experience certain penis owners want to have.
This is the truth. AVERAGE is a perception that exist because penis owners needed to know. They are measuring themselves up against others when it comes time to seeing other penis owner bodies. Are you smaller or thinner than them? Is your’ s normal or is their’ s normal? You may have driven yourself crazy with the thoughts that your penis may not be enough when it comes to giving pleasure.
The average penis measurement flaccid is 3.61 inches and erect 5.16 inches long. While society seems to be stuck on eight inches, there are a few things you should understand. The average vagina is 5 – 7 inches long. You do the math. Top this news with the fact that 64% of vagina owners DO NOT orgasm from penetration regardless of its length or girth.
In Ohio, the average penis size is 6.34 inches. In fact when we look at average penis length by states, the top four are: Louisiana at 7.15 inches, Utah at 6.97 inches, Alabama at 7.44 and Vermont at 6.98.I bring this up because it does not matter where you are, how you eat, exercise or Jelquing you do, you have a tool that can provide pleasure at any size.
If you must do it though, to measure your penis, you should be erect. Stretching your penis will give you an inaccurate measurement. You should not automatically see yourself is less than, because the word average leaves a ton of space for other lengths. Place a ruler or measuring tape at the base of your erect penis and pressing down gently. This will account for pubic hair or excess skin, so that you are pressing against the pubic bone. Measure from the base of the penis to the tip.
Repeat this a few times over the next couple of days and take the average measurement to get your true penis length. Of course, blood flow, health and other situation will alter the length of your erection. You can measure your girth if you have a flexible measurement tape so that you can wrap it around the erect penis and holding the penis in the first position, you measure around to and connect with the size being the number near your thumb. Do not overlap the measurement tool.
The largest penis measured penis recently broke the world record of18.5 inches and measured 19.1 inches. Why the owner asked to be anonymous. When asked what it was like to have such length he replied: “the issue finding and keeping a girlfriend is challenging. Turns out, PornHub lied to me, and women don’t crave dragon dicks.” Vastly true. There is a slew of vulva owners who enjoy such length.
While not a record setter, Jonah Falcon also referred to issues he had with penetrative intercourse with a 13.5-inch penis. In an article written by Ben Cost (Oct. 2022) entitled: ‘I Have the World’s Largest Penis – It’s Still Growing and Sex Is Hard’ Falcon stated “Since my testicles are also extremely large, I’m cognizant of prominent bulges…it’s gotten thicker to the point I can’t receive oral sex due to the girth and intercourse requires a very slow entry.”
Cock shaming indicates a lack of vaginal orgasm knowledge. The famous Gspot is located at the front of the vagina, 2-3 inches in. Vaginas are not all the same! If your unsure, stay shallow and you should be on it. If your 2.5 -3.5 inches, you can do this in a missionary position. Find a balance and rhythm that will drive them crazy. Sure, there are smaller measurements that will require a penis extension to be able to give an Aspot, Cspot, Pspot, Deep spot or Cul de Sac orgasms. Some of these areas require positioning, pressure and force to stimulate to release.
No surprise, this means even “average” penis owners have barriers to reaching some of those spots. This is dependent of the length of the vagina. If you have a loving relationship with your penis, regardless of size, you can learn how to give penetrative pleasure. It is your negative beliefs about the size that keeps you from seeking help in breaking this belief. You can realize the pleasurable areas within the vagina that you can stimulate.
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Goldstein January 10, 2023 Average Penis Size by State (Length At Full Erection) Retrieved April 3, 2023 https://bespokesurgical.com/2023/01/10/blog-average-penis-size-state/
Cost, October 26, 2022, I have the World’s Largest Penis – it is still growing, and sex is hard Retrieved April 3, 2023. https://nypst.com/2022/10/26/man-with-worlds-largest-penis-says-its-still-growing/
